A must read for personal safety specially in #Karachi

WRITTEN BY A COP: Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or a loved one's life. In daylight hours, refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation... This is for you, and for you to share with your wife, your children, & everyone you know. After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you... Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.
DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR ,
LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE..

If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, Repeat:
DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware:look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor ,
and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door.
Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women
are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side.. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then,
it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late
and she thought it was weird.. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door..' The lady then said that it sounded like the baby
had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

10. Water scam! If you wake up in the middle of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your outside taps full blast so that you will go out to investigate and then attack.

Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbors! Please pass this on
This e-mail should probably be taken seriously because the Crying Baby Theory was mentioned on America 's Most Wanted when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know.
It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle..
I was going to send this to the ladies only,
but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc.,
you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need
to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it
and it's better to be safe than sorry..
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or
a loved one's life.

But Why Do Punjabi Women Fall For The “Karachiite-type” Men?

The idea of Urdu-speaking larkaas falling for Punjabi mutyaars caught on like fire! We all saw much of ourselves in that earlier blog. So many of us related to it. As did I, because of my half-Punjabi streak (the other half is Sindhi, but that part will need another blog;)).

What makes perfect sense is that if in the 6th most populous nation in the world, Pakistan that is, a HUGE number of Karachiite-type men are falling for and are with Punjabi women, a complimenting number of Punjabi women have also statistically fallen for, and agreed to be with, and “LIKE” (more than in the FB “like” kind of liking) the Urdu-speaking variety of guys.

So what’s so special about the Karachiite-type dudes? Why do many Punjabi girls choose them over the bhangra-ofying, equally colourful, jazbaati, food-loving, mostly good looking, from the same gene pool, khulla dulla Punjoo guys?

Let’s find out:

1. The Namak Factor:

They are not always lookers. They are not always hunks. But the Karachiite boys have something going for them….something that works! Not always gora chitta, but mostly attractive in a rugged kind of way. It could be the tanned complexions owing to roughing it out on Nipa chowrangi or catching the bus that takes you Karachi University. Or maybe because they have been doing the wheelies on the Honda 70 on Jail Road. But even the ones with FX Suzukis and the Corollas and the Civics etc….even if they are usually in air-conditioned cars, and even if they are Delhi walaswith  fair complexions, they have, well, what is called attraction. It’s like the Khewra salt mines peppered the Karachi guys with namak. Kuch baat hoti hai!

2. The “Opposites Attract” Factor:

Punjabi girls have seen, since they were doing kiklee kaleer dee, boys which are like their daddies and chachoos and phupha jees…..the same kinda culture. The “saying it on your face”. The warmth and affection for which you never have to work hard because in a Punjabi family every body is perpetually in a “maa sadqay jaye”zone (trust me, I know this one!). The “pehle bolo, phir tolo” attitude. The potential to get all emo, angry or sad very soon, and get back to normal equally quickly. The loud volume. The khul ke hansna.

While all of this is awesome in it’s own way, she enjoys the change when she meets a man who thinks before he speaks. For whose attention you have to work hard if you want it consistently (I’m not talking about the first 6 months of marriage here), because the thrill of the chase is not only reserved for men. She likes the manly-but-not-irritatingly-macho style. In many ways he is gentler. And he also brings out the best in her – within months of being with him, she realizes that he has inner censorship beeps. She is suddenly in the “aap ye leejiye” zone. She enjoys the transition from “haan jee” to “jee haan”, just like he enjoys going from “jee haan” to“haan jee”. Why, even if he has to scold her, he will probably say “zabaan sambhaal kar baat keejiye aap, zyada bakwaas mat keejiye” instead of……!!! And he will very soon be calling your mom “ammi jaan“! Of course, the Karachiite boys also have the“abay tu kya keh rahi hai” side to them, alongwith the tehzeeb o tamaddun.

He will not say “Inna pairha salan pakaya jai”. He will instead praise your badly cooked salan so smartly that he will eventually bring out the khidmat guzaar biwi in you. This is unlike what you have known all your life! So it is attractive in a weird way.

It’s completely the opposite. Life takes a 360 degree turn with him. That’s both attractive, and complimentary. The combo works!

3. The Attitude – The X Factor:

What do Urdu-speaking, and particularly Karachiite guys owe their attitude to? It’s probably the multi-cultural, cut throat, no-time-for-nonsense, on the go, fast-paced, dangerous nature of the city of Karachi that makes them have this attitude. They have a defiant streak. Perpetually on the hum kisee se kum naheen roll. Even if they weigh 45 kgs, they feel like they can take on a man double their size. They are street smart in a very tehzeeb yaafta way, but it’s written on their forehead that “honey, mere saath badtameezi naheen chalay gee“. Whether they are in a naqsheen Lucknowi kurta or looking all unkempt in a pair of jeans, warn out loafers and a shirt from Zainab market, they have the same attitude. The “HUM” attitude – and this self-assured streak, though irritating and a pain at times, is attractive. The damsel in distress inside every woman likes a man who takes charge, specially when he does so politely.

4. He Is ALSO A Foodie In The Closet: 

Other parts of Pakistan have a known reputation for being the food capital. Lahore and Lahoris, for instance, are synonymous with khaana peena. But Urdu-Speaking men are no less. In fact, they are more picky and particular about food and related combinations. They will not just devour food. They will notice subtle details like“aloo gosht mein aaloo lambai mein katnay chahiyein, choraai mein naheen”, and“qormay ke saath sheermaal chalay ga” and “Tower ki chaanpon ki kya baat hai”and “nihari to bhaii bong hee ki achi banti hai” and “maash ki daal par to moti laal mirach ka bhigaar hota hai, haree mirach ka naheen” and “Zahid ki nihari? Naheen yar. Malik ki baat aur hai. Wohi Burns Road wala”.

So if the begum is  a Punjoo and a food lover too, the combination works. One big happy foodie family.

5. Urdu-Speaking Men Are Better Husbands (Myth, Or Reality!)

That’s the general perception, at least. That they are gentle and keep their temper and tongues under check. That they allow the khawateen in their life more empowerment. That it’s the women and not the men in a typically Karachiite household that rule, but in a civil, polite manner.

But bhaiyya, the truth is that Lahore ya Karachi, Quetta ho ya Sukkur, Peshawer ho ya Multan, har shareef aadmi is afraid of the mood swings and tantrums of the woman in his life, whether the tantrums are the “silent but deadly” kind or the openly volatile kind.

So guys, whether you are from Lahore or Karachi, agar apni khair chahiye and you wanna be happy then treat your woman with love and respect. The more you give, the more you get 

by Farahnaz Zahidi